Sunday, June 18, 2006

Okay, I'd really like everyone to answer this question...

When you were first coming to the conclusion of dealing with Same-sex attraction, what were the most invaluable lessons you have learned concerning the topic?

The reason why I ask is that there are so many young men and women (and older ones too) that are finally coming to terms with their attraction and desperately need to learn from our experiences.


Ward Cleaver said...

For me, it took me MANY years to realize that I MUST "deal" with my feelings of ssa. I can't hide from them. I can't pretend I don't have ssa. I can't ignore it. I must face it.


To have something that you've never had must first do something you've never done.

I must be proactive in my own change. I can't pray ssa away.

My two cents.

Kim Mack said...

One of the many things I have learned is that I have the power to say no to acting on the feelings, and perhaps that route would have made my progress to where I am a little simpler. Coupled with that is the sure knowledge that there is potential for enormous change and incredible peace in that change. SSA life won't always be hard, miserable, or tumultuous.

robb said...

Hey bro, in response to your comment, I taught in China, right before I headed back to school (a couple of years ago). I was never much for university, but I loved teaching over there, and my motivation to head back to school was my desire to become better qualified to help people as an educator.

And as an unexpected bonus I learned a lot more. I lost myself in service to others without concern for my material or social status. I think if we try bury our problems, we will only end up unhappy, but if we find useful endeavors to occupy our time, we forget about our problems and unintentionally we can even learn something about how to address those issues.

Ward Cleaver said...

robb makes a VERY valid and important point.

I think he has the key to self-help.

Samantha said...

I wish I could answer this. I can't. My life is filled with contradictions--but I would trade with no one.

The most invaluable lesson?? To accept who I am, regardless of what that means.

I'm still working on that.

Chris said...

It wasn't until after my mission that I realized my feelings weren't going away. It was tough coming to that realization.